Reblogged from tacosnotdrugskids
Remember how Margaret Atwood said that a man’s worst fear was being laughed at by a woman? And a woman’s worst fear was being killed by a man?
Yeah, this is exactly what she was talking about.
Prospective employers, friends, and future girlfriends: this is how Matthew Davitt thinks. Matthew Davitt thinks that joking about raping women he doesn’t know is really, really funny. (And Nathan Alexander Sugerman, J.D. Sharp, and Alfred De Santos agree.)
I don’t see where you got rape.
Okay, cis dude, let me explain this one final time since you are so intent on NOT getting it.
When a man I don’t know stares at me and makes a reference to having sex with me, I am on high alert. It is creepy, it is invasive, and it’s not funny or cute. It’s scary, and it’s dangerous.
If you’re some random guy, I don’t know you. I don’t know whether or not you’re a rapist, and if I give someone the benefit of the doubt, I could get hurt. And then I’ll get blamed for not being more careful, for leading them on, for asking for it. I can’t determine from a brief first time interaction whether or not a strange man would rape me. When he makes comments like this - and let’s be real, if a random guy stares me and my friend in the eye for laughing and implies he’s going to have sex with us, it doesn’t sound like a fun consensual time will be had - I know for sure that he does not deserve the benefit of the doubt.
Please understand that while you can see this as a “joke,” and something that doesn’t necessarily involve rape that you have an incredibly privileged world view. You are a cis gender man who doesn’t have to worry about rape when you walk home alone, or go out on the town. Not everyone is so lucky, so maybe listen to them instead of immediately proclaiming that you don’t get it.
I think you may be looking to far into this as for I do not see how just making a flirting comment points to rape at all.
Please explain to me on what planet “flirting” constitutes glaring at people while making threatening sexual comments about you to a third party
I will make it a point to never go to that planet.